Yes, it is YOUR work

Why are so many of us being led by the myth that marriage should make us happy?

I like how the institution of marriage develops. People used to get married to get some financial benefit, social status, or to have children. Today, people are increasingly getting married and getting married already when they really want to be together.
However, unfortunately, too many married women, apparently unknowingly, expect the husband to make them happy. And when difficult times begin (and they always begin), instead of looking for a problem in themselves, too many women point the finger at their husband. They blame him (or husbands blame wives) for relationship problems.“If he paid me more attention, then everything would be fine!” Or “If she was more involved with children, then our family would be better.”

Often people do not try to solve a problem, but they judge and criticize their partner. And then many women often go to the punishment - as it seems to them: refusal of sex, feelings and attention.

"He himself can cook himself to eat!"

"I will not have sex with him until he apologizes."

“I don't care what he does. I am right, but he is wrong. ”

And so many women sit, blame and condemn the husband, until the relationship falls apart. They expect the husband to be the perfect reflection of themselves, always agree and behave as they want.

These women allow their hurt and anger to prevail in relationships. And then the quarrel over unwashed dishes begins. But in fact they are not because of the dishes.

They are about the fact that someone does not feel the attention and care, someone thinks that he is taken for granted, that he is not heard or seen. A person simply does not feel loved by his partner.

Too often, such women - even the strongest, intelligent and independent - in a strange way believe that if they inspire enough guilt to their man, if they try to control him, then suddenly everything will be as they want. But usually the exact opposite happens.

Their husbands, not feeling love and tired of brainwashing, control and criticism, do the opposite. They move away. And the discord in the relationship is only growing. Everything gets worse and worse.

If you treat someone badly, it will never bring you what you want - at least not in a healthy relationship based on trust and security.

You can quarrel. You can scream. You can close.You can tell yourself that you are right and he is wrong. That he is a selfish jerk.

But how does this help?

Will it bring you what you want?

As punishment of a husband in the form of refusal from sex or refusal of attention to him can induce him to love you more? Why do we do that?

Dear ladies, if you want to be happy in marriage, then it is your job to make your husband happy.

Stop waiting, who will take the first step, who will love you perfectly, who will make you happy.

Trying to change another person is an act of aggression. Attempting to change oneself is an act of love.

Of course, all this is provided that the person responds to your efforts in the same way. Otherwise it is useless. But you need to start in any case with yourself.

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