If we talk about the intense love that you feel for someone at the beginning of a relationship, then several studies have shown that it lasts no longer than 2–3 years. Well, a maximum of 7 years so sure.
After that, at a certain stage, it turns into ...
... if the relationship is strong and continues. Of course, this is a bit more boring than those first feelings of strong passion, but this is a natural flow of all relationships.
The first passionate love turns into compassionate love that married couples usually have for each other.
Is love one thing or does it have many different components?
Love is, of course, one thing. This is a strong attraction to a certain person with whom we are in love. But love itself is actually made up of different components. Love is a combination ...
1. Needs:you love a person, because you need him for some personal reason, if you want a selfish reason.
2. Compensation:you love a person because he gives you what you do not have.
3. Unconditional love:you love a person completely and without a doubt.
For example, if your subconscious thinks that you are well with a certain person, you will feel that you love him and will try to be closer to him.
It is important to note that even if true love is a combination of the three things mentioned, in the end it must move away from the need and compensation for unconditional love. This is what makes love more present and paves the way for healthy relationships.
Why can't some people forget their ex, even many years later?
Maybe it's because of the wrong ideas about love? For example:
Because of these ideas, people become obsessed with their ex because they think that they have missed their true love or the “One”. They close the doors to potential partners and never forget their ex.
Thus, they themselves prevent themselves from meeting new people who can make them happy and with whom they can build strong relationships.