Well, another mysterious disappearance of a guy. You have been acquainted for only a few weeks. Something special began to emerge between you. You have already met some of his friends, he is with you, you have slept, and here ... he is gone. Like many others. For no apparent reason. Just when everything was starting to get serious.
A friend says: "You did not tell him what you want, and you slept with him too early."
With you pretty. Why can't you find a good guy mature enough for a serious relationship?
There is one phrase that comes to the mind of many women in such a situation and which they often begin to use.You think that this will help weed out the unsuitable, but in fact we will screen out everyone.
You meet a new man, decide that you will no longer allow him to simply take advantage of you, and after a few dates, proudly declare ...
“I don't need just sex. I need a serious relationship".
And that's all. It just completely kills the entire interest of the man, even if he was not a womanizer.
It's one thing to say this after six months of a relationship, and another is already the first month. To a woman, this seems like a strong statement telling a man that, they say, you will not be caught. But in fact, she says: “Although I know you very little, I decided that I want a serious relationship with you. Your move".
A man hears it that way. And it puts pressure on him.Just as it turns you away from guys who only want sex from you, men turn away from women who only want them for serious relationships and marital status.
This phrase “I need only a serious relationship” does not act on men the way you would like, becausemen do not start dating you with the idea of a relationship.
Understand that. Men meet according to the principles: “I feel good with her here and now” and “We will live and see.” And if in a few months everything will still be good in your relationship, then he may already think about more.
After all, do you yourself really want a guy whose main goal is relationships, and not relationships with you?First you need to understand what you want this person, and then what you want to build a relationship with.
In addition, when a girl immediately declares the desire for a serious relationship, she immediately puts all the cards on the table. A man is no longer interested in seeking it, because he already knows that she has all the arms and legs for him.
Appreciate your life outside of relationships, so that the guy himself wants to become a part of it, and don’t sacrifice anything for someone you don’t really know.