Love education

Love education

It's no secret that the child is in utero connected with the mother by the umbilical cord. Through it, he gets food, oxygen and the ability to remove decomposition products from his body. After birth, the umbilical cord is cut, and the child and mother are separated, as it were. “As if”, because the psychological umbilical cord remains, there remains a strong connection at the psychological and energetic level, a kind of continuation of the unity of mother and baby, which began at the moment of conception ……
And to cut this umbilical cord ahead of time is simply blasphemous. But until some time it was believed that the mother, who is constantly worn with her baby, tames him in her hands and, as a result, in herself. The wise grandmothers warned about the complete loss of freedom for the mother and about the dependence and lack of independence for the child, hanging on it the label "mother's son." And the age from which it is recommended to start learning independence is still a stage of the newborn.

When they tell me, why take the crying child in my arms, especially a newborn, that it is not necessary to accustom him to his hands,I have only one argument: when a child is hungry, he is urgently fed, when he is thirsty, he is quickly given to drink, but when he wants love and warmth of his mother, she is told - do not accustom yourself, otherwise you will not have freedom. The question arises: how does a child learn to love and give love to others? The only thing he can learn is indifference. Or will suffer from the inability to express their feelings (especially for boys).

The first three months after birth, the child is still in the period of "fetal life", that is, he formally lives in the outside world, but in fact is still in the womb of the mother, now psychological. Ready to live physically, breathe oxygen, eat and digest mother's milk, hear various sounds and see a bright light, the child does not think of himself apart from his mother. In fact, he is the mother, and the mother is him. Therefore, for him, being in close proximity with mom is called life, existence, and being away from mom is non-existence.

All parents who love their children wish them happiness, want to create the most comfortable living conditions for them.Before, and who after, mother and dad go shopping for a long time, fascinated by the variety of children's products. On the shelves are the n-th number of pleasantly smelling baby cosmetics, pastel-colored soft blouses and rompers hang on the hangers, strollers, not only of various colors, but also forms, hang in rows in rows and three: big wheels, three wheels, only with a cradle or universal , and then there are beds with such chic canopies and carousels! And this is only a department for newborns and not a complete range. But where is behind all this luxury mother and child? Most of the products offered are designed for the separate existence of mother and baby.

Some children can tell their parents interesting things about their memories from early childhood. And parents find it hard to believe what children say to them, because often their memories are unpleasant for adults. A child may remember about his experiences associated with the fact that in the first months of his life he was far from his mother, although she was near. “Fantasies,” Mom will wave, but deep down she knows that the child is right. Following the advice of their moms,she tried not to tame the child to her hands and endured childish hysteria and tears, fighting in her soul with the desire to grab her sweet child in her arms and comfort her. Time passed, the child grew up, and mother noticed that they and the child were very far from each other. And if earlier mother did not approach the child, now he does not approach her: neither with problems, nor with joy, nor to express her love.

Where did the strong desire to discipline young children come from? To accustom them to feeding by the hour, separate finding from mom day and night? If you delve into the study of the lives of our ancestors, you can note the fact that mother and children were constantly together, they did not interfere with mother and in their time perfectly became independent, but maintained close warm relations with mother. And the kids got their breasts at their request, and not by the clock, which the majority did not have then.

Everything changed at that moment when it became unprofitable for the country to have families and parents. The country began to need workers and workers. This was especially vividly shown after World War II, when a large number of men died.The need to rebuild the country and the lack of labor has led to the fact that too little time was allotted for pregnancy, childbirth and post-natal recovery. Having taken out and having given birth to a country worker, the young mommy had to “teach” the child to do without her for the first month. For this, nurseries, round-the-clock kindergartens, and dairy kitchens were created. Breastfeeding often ended right in the maternity hospital, and due to the fact that at home, the mother carried out a lot of prescriptions for taking care of the child - feeding by the clock, a separate night's sleep, taking hands only for feeding, not pampering the child with her attention, in the nursery children were already emotionally detached, closed. But there were particular cases when women secretly violated these regulations, enveloped the child with attention and love, were breastfed for a long time and were often carried in their arms. They were not afraid to spoil the child, they were afraid to offend him with their indifference. The trust and openness of such children to the outside world, love and sympathy for other people amazed those around them. They were jealous of such children, and then adults, they were called favorites of fate, and they sometimes experienced aggression, which grew out of envy.

So let's love our children, take them in our hands more often, without fear of spoiling them. After all, as you know, love can not be spoiled.

From the first days of life try to carry the child in your arms all the time, using a sling for this. The child, listening to the sound of her mother's heart and the sound of breathing, plunges into a state of intrauterine peace and unity with her mother. Mom, listening to the quiet, serene breathing of the baby, breathing in such a sweet, warm, caramel smell, is calm and balanced: everything is in order with her child. Take the baby's hands not only when he is crying bitterly, but also when he is calm: the child will no longer use a cry to attract mother's attention.

It is especially important not to miss the moment when the child begins sallies for independence - this is the time of the beginning of crawling, walking, and running. Without losing his mother’s sight, the baby is moving further away from her, but he also remembers: if I need my mother’s help or attention, I can get her at any moment. This is how the foundations of love, trust and confidence are laid. "I can do everything, because I have a strong rear."

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