Of course, compliance with these rules does not guarantee the success of the relationship, but significantly increases the likelihood of success if both of you follow them:
1. Follow your feelings.
Understand them, no need to analyze them too much, no need to be ashamed of them. Your feelings are what you are, and to betray them is to betray yourself. If your feelings lead you out of relationships, follow them. Do not stay with someone just for fear of being alone.
2. Focus on the merits of your partner, not the disadvantages.
Everyone has both, and another, but the balance is important. What more do you have? Happiness and satisfaction or discontent and annoyance?
3. What you felt at the beginning of a relationship is not real compatibility.
What you felt in the early stages of a relationship is more about your wishes and expectations. Attraction is a mixture of biology and psychology. Do not be afraid that at first you did not have attraction to each other. The relationship should be based on friendship. Only she will help to endure various adversities.
four.Your relationship should not be the main source of your self-esteem.
You really have to first love yourself first so that you have something to share with another person. If your self-esteem depends on a partner, you can create a toxic relationship with jealousy, possessiveness, excessive vulnerability to criticism, etc.
5. Balance time together and separately.
Spending too much time together can make you co-dependent and inseparable in a bad way. There is jealousy, resentment, obsession. But time apart is important, if only so that you don’t get bored: so that each of you gets a new experience that you could share later.
6. The foundation of relationships is laid at an early stage, and then little can be changed.
It can be improved, but certain patterns are laid at the base. Therefore, one should not allow something at first, hoping to fix it later. If you are not satisfied with something - talk about it. It is important to think about the foundation and when the romantic period passes: when butterflies fly away and it is necessary to soberly assess whether your relationship has prospects.
7. Do not be afraid to love with all your heart.
Do not be afraid that you break it.Because you can break it just because you have not shown the person with what force you can really love him. Just keep your expectations realistic, knowing how this person treats you and what is reasonable to expect from him / her.
8. Be honest, even if it can hurt.
Share your fears and doubts about yourself and relationships. Mutual trust is the basis of any relationship. It’s not necessary to tell all your feelings and thoughts to the partner, but if they touch him, then it’s worth it.
9. Understand each other's love language.
Find out how each of you wants to feel love. Because many misunderstandings in relationships often occur just because of unjustified expectations in the perception of love.