Many future mummies during pregnancy have questions related to church and religion: is it possible to go to church and to the cemetery, when to baptize a child, when it is allowed to go to church after giving birth, is it possible to go to a funeral, if, God forbid, died someone from relatives or loved ones, etc.
It turns out that in these matters the church does not introduce almost any restrictions for pregnant women. The only exception is a ban on visiting the temples of God for 40 days after giving birth.
Church: you can and even need!
There is a common myth that for some reason pregnant women cannot go to church. For some reason, among “all-knowing” grandmothers, it is customary to frighten pregnant women with such a ban, and the Internet is replete with questions of bewildered women like “Is it possible for pregnant women to go to church?”. These questions can be answered unequivocally - to go to church during pregnancy is not only possible but necessary!
In the church, such prohibitions are categorically rejected and, on the contrary, urge pregnant women to visit churches more often.After all, attending church only gives the future mother the strength and faith that everything will be fine.
“A pregnant woman is helpful and needs to go to church and pray. When she comes to church, she prays with her unborn child. That’s why a pregnant woman should go to church! ”Hegumen Nifont, vicar of the Holy Resurrection Monastery (Gurba tract).
All this works, of course, if a woman herself wants to go there - nothing can be done through the strength of a pregnant woman, and attending church is no exception.
If the pregnant woman and her husband are not married, then the church advises them to marry before the child is born — then the Lord will send special grace to their marriage. If a pregnant woman is not baptized, but wants to be baptized, then this pregnancy is not at all a hindrance. Also, a woman “in position” can calmly take communion - the adoption of the Holy Mysteries will only benefit her and her baby.
In the later periods, it is not advised to go to church alone. It is better for a pregnant woman to call her husband, mother, girlfriend, someone else from relatives or relatives with her. After all, a pregnant woman in a church can suddenly feel bad, and then their help will come in handy.But this recommendation does not only concern church visits - it is better for a pregnant woman to go to the company in any trips outside her home.
But after giving birth to mommy, you can forget about going to church for as long as 40 days. That is how much time must pass for a woman to be cleansed of original sin. After this period the woman comes to the temple, and the priest reads the prayers over her fortieth day. After that, she can again go to the service and take part in church ordinances.
Cemetery - you can, funeral - not worth it
All the same "all-knowing" grandmothers say that pregnant women absolutely cannot go to cemeteries and funerals, as well as look at the dead. They tell “horror stories” that in the cemetery the soul of the deceased can “cling” to the child, and if a pregnant woman looks at the deceased, the child can be born dead.
In the church, such signs are called paganism and heresy.“All these beliefs are paganism,” exclaimsFather Nifont.- We live in parallel with him. Sometime in order to keep people in fear, and came up with such things. " According to the priest, to go to the cemetery or not is a private matter of every woman."If the priest says," Do not go, "and the soul asks to go - then how not to go?”, SaysFather Nifont.
But if a pregnant woman’s campaign to the cemetery is associated with negative feelings, if a woman experiences anxiety, fear and other similar feelings in the cemetery, then it is better to refrain from visiting such places, because any stresses can negatively affect the child. All negative feelings, as well as positive ones, are transmitted from the mother to the child who is in the womb. Therefore, it is so important for a pregnant woman to get as much positive emotions and impressions as possible, while at the same time protecting herself from negative moments and stress.
Therefore, if we are talking about visiting the cemetery on memorial days, on Seeing off, when a woman wants to visit the dead relatives and friends, and at the same time she is sure that nothing can disturb her inner peace - you can safely go there.
Regarding the funeral, even for an ordinary person, they are very stressful, not to mention pregnant. Therefore, pregnant women should take care of themselves and their baby, and refrain from attending the funeral to avoid the inevitable stress.
When to baptize?
The church says that it is necessary to baptize a child on the eighth day after birth. But in practice, it is rare when parents decide to baptize their baby in such a “young” age. Mostly baptized babies after they are one month old. The church is more than loyal in this matter - even if you bring your 5-year-old or even 15-year-old child to christen, then, as a rule, you will not even be asked why you came so late and in no case will you be refused.
As we see, the church does not place any prohibitions for pregnant women, despite the existence of popular beliefs that warn pregnant women against going to cemeteries, funerals, and even to church. The main thing is that the future mother should do what she considers necessary for herself and the child. So do not listen to anyone and do not forget - the signs come true in those who believe in them.