We talk a lot about what kind of person we deserve to have around.
The perfect gentleman. The one who will be near always. A kindred spirit, a family man, a man of our dreams.
We talk endlessly about how we want to be treated, but little about how we are going to treat him.
We do not focus attention on what we can offer in a relationship, how we plan to match what our chosen one deserves.
Because it can be terribly difficult.
We all like to think that we are ideal lovers, but none of us wants to admit that we do not always know what a particular person needs in order to feel loved.
Because everyone loves differently. One needs physical intimacy, the other needs more pleasant words. One needs to be constantly together, and the other quite a few posts a week to know that they do not forget about him.
We do not want to admit that we can love someone with all our hearts and it’s still hard to try to make relationships.
But here is the simplest and ingenious secret:
Just meet with someone for whom you want to try.
Meet with someone for whom you want to leave your comfort zone, and be bigger, better, better than you were before him.
Choose one for whom you want to change your bad habits, your stubbornness, your tendency to dramatize and suspect everything.
Choose someone you will not doubt: how to treat him, what he deserves, whether he loves you as you deserve or not.
Choose the one who discovers the best in you.
Because he is patient. He is honest. And you want to be like him.
Choose the one for whom you want to compromise. Who is worth it to put up and put up with. For whom you want to fight the way you would like to fight for you.
Choose the one for whom you want to be the person you always wanted to be around.
Because it reveals the best in you. Because you discover in each other the best.
Because the truth is that we can all be the most terrible and the most beautiful in a relationship.
But some people motivate us to try less than others.And others make us sincerely want to make them happy.To be more, better than we have ever been in love before.
Choose someone for whom you want to be the absolutely best version of yourself.
Because, most likely, the effect will be mutual.